17.10.15

Leaving My Career for My Baby

A lot of you won't know this, I'm a fully qualified Legal Cashier. I have worked in the accounts department in a local Solicitors since the last year of my admin course in college, I went there on work experience during my course and they kept me on part time, working on the days that I didn't have college. Once I finished college they offered me a full time role, eventually they put me through a diploma, I failed my exam first time around but scraped through the second time, I now have the option to use the letters ILCA DIP after my name if I so wish (I never use them!). A few weeks ago, after working there for almost 13 years, I decided to put my baby before my career and hand my notice in. I left my career for my baby.

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I've never been a career person, yes, I did the course and got the letters after my name, but that was only because it was expected of me. If I had been more determined I probably would have passed the exam first time around, but I'm not a career person. This is why I had always planned on finding a part time job in retail instead of returning after my maternity leave. I'm sure my bosses would have allowed me to go back part time, but I didn't want to. I wanted a job where I could work a couple of hours a week and not feel stressed about the work that was building up on my desk while I was away, or feel guilty about the work that I had to dump on my colleague because I didn't have enough time to finish it. 

Where I worked was great, if I had handed my notice in at the end of this month I would have been there for a total of 13 years, I clearly enjoyed it. My colleagues and bosses were lovely, some became great friends and I really do hope that we will keep in touch, but they will carry on in their office job without me there and eventually forget about me. 

Most of my life changing events happened during the time that I worked there. I split up with my first long term boyfriend while working there, he sent flowers to me at the office, I gave them to a colleague. I met spencer while working there, we got engaged, married and pregnant while working there. I bought my first house while working there, off one of my colleagues as it happened but that was just a coincidence! I enjoyed my first and (probably) last girls holiday while working there. I celebrated turning 18, 21 and 30 with them. I won employee of the year while there and had several years without having a single sick day. 

I will miss it. We had amazing Christmas parties, we were treated like royalty at the parties, our boss always striving to better the previous year. We went to London as a firm to meet the local MP in parliament after winning an award. 

I will miss working there, I will miss the fun times we had outside of work and I will miss my colleagues and bosses. But I am happy with the decision that I have made and feel that a load has been taken off. 

I'm taking a huge risk. The job that I have accepted is a temporary Christmas position, they are taking some of us on afterwards so I just have to hope that I am one of those. If not, at least I have the experience in retail to add to my CV.

I have just completed my first week in my new job and I am loving it. I am working 16 hours a week, split over four, four hour shifts. On a busy day the four hours go so fast. I love being on the tills serving and chatting to customers, it doesn't feel like I am in work. I am not getting stressed at all. So far my hours have been 9am - 1pm, 12.30 - 4.30 and 4.30 - 8.30pm. These hours are lovely as it means that I still get to spend a big chunk of the day with Aria. 

I have taken a huge pay cut, my wages will amount to roughly the same as my statutory maternity pay. We survived on my maternity pay so we can survive on these wages. 

Maybe I will stay in retail, maybe I won't, but for now I am absolutely certain that that leaving my career for my baby was the right decision.

Did you or would you leave your career for your baby?

14 comments:

  1. Great post, I have and I haven't. I worked full time as a teacher when I was a mum of one and two. I then cut down to part time for my third child and was eventually made redundant. I then had my fourth child and can't imagine going back to teaching part or full time until the kids are a lot older now. I really appreciate the extra time I get with the kids working from home. Yes, it's less money but as you've said, you can just about manage. Good luck! Your job looks fun and perfect for you! xxx

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    1. Thanks Claire :) It must have been so difficult going back to work full time, especially as a teacher because you never really sign off from that job! It is lovely having the extra time with them :)

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  2. I left my job after having my baby too. I spent years studying to get my job in social care then after only a few years I left to have a baby and fell pregnant again whilst on maternity leave and have decided not to go back. At the moment I'm not working but luckily earn a small amount off my blog each month. I think I will do the same as you and look for a part time role or do agency work in a year or two when I return to work. I'm glad your new roles going well and your enjoying it. Xx

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    1. Thank you :) It seems like such a shame after all the studying not to further it, but children are far more important and those of us who are lucky enough to be able to afford to cut down on work should definitely make the most of it. The odd bit of cash from blogging certainly helps, I see it as my pocket money!

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  3. It sounds like you worked at an amazing place and it must have been really hard to leave but Im glad that your new job is going so well. I worked as an accountant but quit after a year of maternity leave. I just want to be with my boys! We do miss the money especially as Ian was made redundant 3 weeks before my eldest was born! But some things are just priceless and this works best for us x

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    1. It was a really great place and it was sad to say goodbye. That is such a shame that Ian was made redundant after you took the plunge, I'm so glad it is all working out though!

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  4. I left my job because we emigrated and so have been with my boys ever since. I have to say I miss working. I miss financial independence. I love spending time with the boys but I wonder what if. Your job sounds perfect.

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  5. Great post! I left my part-time job as a nursery assistant when my second daughter was born, simply because I moved too far to be able to get to the nursery by 7.30am and we just couldn't afford the childcare costs. I really miss working. I am trying to get a career out of blogging now so I can be self-employed x

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  6. A lovely post! With me its a tricky one the jobs I have had since leaving college have been temp or ad hoc. I'm currently a stay at home Mum but really miss the financial independence I had when I have been working.

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  7. Great post and it sounds like the prefect decision for you. I left my career as a solicitor and it was the best decision I ever made - spending time with my family way out weighs the money for me. Xx

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  8. I don't think your career meant a lot to you in the first place, but I totally undestand. I had no problem quitting my teaching job when my little girl was born and I really wouldn't like to go back. Right now, I am a SAHM, but I already have a few ideas about the next path I want to follow. Staying at home has made me find myself again. Perhaps that will happen to you to?

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  9. It's nice to see someone saying that they'd take a pay cut to spend more time with their children. I left a high paying job and a solicitors when I was pregnant with my first child and haven't looked back since. Yes, I loved my job, but it's something I can get back in to one my children are older x

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  10. It's great you've got something that works for you.

    I was kind of forced into making a change, and the role I chose wasn't in my industry, it was something totally different and I took a big pay cut too. But instead of an 1 commute each way, I have 12 minutes each way, and probably more flexibility (at the moment until they remove the compressed hours I'm allowed)

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  11. Best of luck my lovely, family is more important and you have to take a risk sometimes. I was in one sector for about 10 years and made a huge change and I'm really glad I did xx

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