Maternity Leave Realities

I couldn't wait to start maternity leave, nine months off work to relax and bond with my beautiful new baby. We would be off over Summer so would go for leisurely walks through the park, once we got to the park I would feed my baby with a beautiful, home made lunch, we would have a bit of fun and then take another leisurely stroll home. I would attend mother & baby groups and make loads of new friends, providing a really good support network. We would both be happy and in a fantastic routine. The reality was somewhat different. I now look at the above thoughts and laugh at myself.

blog post about the realities of maternity leave

In reality you will commit to far too much to have any relaxing days. You may get to walk through the park but it will be a rushed, sweaty walk that you are taking just because you have somewhere to be, and of course, you're late.

You will join baby groups, maybe even a slimming class for yourself, you will be expected to take the baby into work and to see friends/relatives. Those days you dreamt of in which you would relax on the sofa cuddling up with your baby watching Disney films don't happen. How are you supposed to fit lazy days in now that you have committed to all of these groups and people? It doesn't matter anyway, your baby doesn't even like cwtches and finds watching TV incredibly boring.

You will always be late, in the early days it will usually be because your baby has a poo-nami just before you leave. Cue a bath (or at least a full body wash using wet wipes depending on just how late you are) and complete outfit change. In the later days it may be because your baby has had a lie in and you daren't wake them because if you do all hell will break loose. It could be because baby would rather sit in their highchair and shake their head instead of eating their breakfast because shaking their head is hilarious and breakfast isn't. You will find yourself scooping their lovingly prepared breakfast into a plastic bowl with a lid and taking it with you.

Don't get me wrong, I did manage to get some things done. I completed an on-line photography diploma and managed to spend a little more time and effort on my blog. Aria slept a lot which meant that I could do these things sometimes. I even made most of my own purees following the Annabel Karmel plan. Nowadays she sleeps a lot less so generally has fish fingers.

Maternity leave probably won't be what you expect it to be, but it will be fun. 
Don't put any pressure on yourself, just enjoy it. 



  1. The reality is always different is't it? I'm glad you still managed to enjoy it and also got to do a lot of other things as well :)

  2. Could completely relate to this. My biggest bug bare was the fact everyone thought it was acceptable to just turn up when E wasn't even 3 days old, no warning. If i have another baby, visitors will be banned until I have a chance to settle in myself! x

  3. I relate to this completely at the moment. My little one is two months old and the reality is far different from what I expected. With the lack of sleep as well I find it difficult to fit in the things I want to do on a daily basis, and like you said I'm always late even when I get everything ready incredibly early.

  4. *Sigh* 9 months, wow. But yes, you'll always be running late because baby causes all kinds of delays you can't predict.

  5. Yup, your 1st few sentences sum up my thoughts as I started my 1st maternity leave. My friends and I even called it 'the cake club' as we all left work at the same time. Do I need to mention no cakes were baked? I spent a fair few mornings with friends having coffee and exchanging sleepless nights stories and it felt like minutes after I gave birth, I was back at work.

  6. You're so right. I imagine maternity leave to be different to what it actually was. Although I must have enjoyed it as I didn't go back to work!!!

    Laura x

  7. This really made me chuckle. Its such a perfect summary of life after a child hehe and I say that cause my daughters nearly 2 and I still have a lot of these struggles!


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