Am I Spoiling My One Year Old?

Since Aria was a newborn we've given into her. She cried, we gave her something, that is what you do with babies, their cry means that they want something. Aria has pretty much always been a good baby, only ever crying for a reason. We know that if she cries she needs food, drink or sleep. Until recently...

am I spoiling my one year old - blog header photo baby girl crying

She is now fourteen, almost fifteen, months old and seems to have learnt that if she cries, she gets what she wants. The result of this is what seems to be a very spoilt baby. If I have something, Aria decides that she wants it, whatever it is. I can't pick up a piece of paper without Aria pointing at it and having a meltdown. I don't even dare eat a bar of chocolate within a one mile radius of her. It isn't worth the backlash.

Walking through a toy shop is hard work, she will point at the cute teddy bears and cry when I pass them by without getting one for her. I find myself wondering if I've done something wrong, have I given into her too often or is this just a phase that they all go through?

I hate to leave my baby cry but I often have to. Now I'm not saying that I'm going to leave her there crying all the time, often I am able to distract her with something else, other times I will put her to bed. Sometimes though, there is no reason for it, she isn't tired, she isn't hungry, she is just crying because she can't have what she wants, I don't want to teach her that crying will get her what she wants so I just have to tell her no and leave her cry.

I could take the easy option and give her my mobile phone every time she cries because she wants it, but surely that is just making a rod for my own back? Surely now is the time that she needs to learn that she can't have everything that she wants?

Is this just a phase or have I spoiled my one year old? Did your little one go through a similar phase? If so, how did you deal with it?


  1. I think you have to balance your mental health and having an easy life with being firm and coping with the result of saying no. It depends what sort of day I'm having if I just give in or decide to stand firm!! At age just one I think you need use distraction, praise, and lots of love. It's far easier to be firm when they are older and they understand more and you don't feel so guilty if they have a screaming tantrum lol xx

    1. Thanks for the comment Lauren :)
      You are right, today for example I have given in and let Aria have chocolate when she saw it and cried because I think I would have had a break down if I had to go through another tantrum lol


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